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01-12-2013 | Original Article

What I Felt Like Doing, but did Not Do When I Felt Hurt: An REBT-Based Investigation of Action Tendencies that are Not Acted On

Auteurs: Windy Dryden, Nicola R. Hurton

Gepubliceerd in: Journal of Rational-Emotive & Cognitive-Behavior Therapy | Uitgave 4/2013

Abstract

In this questionnaire-based study, we investigated the action tendencies that 100 people reported having, but did not act on, in specific situations in which they felt hurt. An awareness of these types of unacted-on tendencies will help rational emotive behavior therapy therapists to be alert to the possible presence of hurt feelings and hurt-related motivational states that clients do not readily report experiencing in ABC analyses of hurt-related emotional episodes.

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The mean and SD calculations are based on the ages of 98 of the 100 participants, as two participants did not provide their ages.

The questionnaire is available from the first author.

The authors would like to acknowledge that they have adapted this category description from one initially provided by Leary et al. (1998).

NHS = National Health Service.

The authors would like to acknowledge that they have adapted this category description from one initially provided by Vangelisti and Crumley (1998).

The “distancing” and “pursue new relationships” categories discussed here are similar to Bachman and Guerrero’s (2006) factors of “active distancing” and “de-escalation.” However, Bachman and Guerrero were examining communicative responses following hurtful events whereas this paper is considering action tendencies in hurtful situations.

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Titel: What I Felt Like Doing, but did Not Do When I Felt Hurt: An REBT-Based Investigation of Action Tendencies that are Not Acted On
Auteurs: Windy Dryden
Nicola R. Hurton
Publicatiedatum: 01-12-2013
Uitgeverij: Springer US
Gepubliceerd in: Journal of Rational-Emotive & Cognitive-Behavior Therapy / Uitgave 4/2013
Print ISSN: 0894-9085
Elektronisch ISSN: 1573-6563
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/s10942-013-0169-9

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