In adolescence, conflicts take on a special significance. Social networks and relationships change significantly during this period (e.g., Wagner et al.,
2014) and interpersonal conflicts occur more frequently than in other phases of life (e.g., Smetana et al.,
2006). These changes offer a unique possibility for adolescent psychosocial development, as conflicts promote an individual’s understanding of other people’s feelings and intentions, their own needs, and the social rules and conventions that guide interpersonal behavior (Dunn & Slomkowski,
1992). Accordingly, conflicts are a normative aspect of the adolescent transition from childhood to adulthood (Branje,
2018). At the same time, frequent arguments can be detrimental to any type of relationship, affecting the well-being and mental health of those involved (Ehrlich et al.,
2012; Laursen & Hafen,
2010). One key predictor of conflict frequency is an individual’s personality, that is, the way people tend to think, feel, and behave across situations (Roberts et al.,
2006). In particular, low levels of agreeableness and high levels of neuroticism have been associated with a higher number of interpersonal conflicts (e.g., Deventer et al.,
2019). However, most findings on personality and conflict frequency are based on research with adults (e.g., Berry et al.,
2000; Mund & Neyer,
2014). It therefore remains an open question if results generalize to adolescents. Another key ingredient of conflict frequency concerns the relationship features that characterize the social bond between two people. Specifically, relationships vary in their functions and in their unique characteristics, and these differences affect how frequently conflict emerges (Canary et al.,
1995). Bridging previous findings from personality psychology and developmental research, the current study investigated how adolescents’ personality (i.e., agreeableness and neuroticism) and relationship features (i.e., contact frequency and relationship quality) are related to conflict frequency in adolescent parent and peer relationships. To achieve a comprehensive understanding of these links, a multi-rater approach was adopted and both adolescents’ self-perceptions of conflict frequency and other-perceptions provided by adolescents’ parents and peers were considered.
Personality and Conflict Frequency: The Role of Agreeableness and Neuroticism
Previous research indicates that individuals scoring high on agreeableness are motivated to cooperate and get along with others (Denissen & Penke,
2008a). They possess strong self-regulatory capabilities to control negative thoughts or behavioral impulses in social situations (Robinson,
2007). Accordingly, people with higher agreeableness are less likely to initiate conflicts and adapt more efficiently to their relationship partners’ behaviors, which reduces the risk of conflicts. Despite these strong behavioral implications, findings regarding agreeableness and conflict frequency are mixed. Among the existing studies on this topic, which are exclusively based on samples from Westernized countries, some reported that high levels of agreeableness are linked to less self-reported conflict (e.g., Bono et al.,
2002), while others did not find a significant association with self- or other-perceived conflict measures (e.g., Jensen-Campbell et al.,
2003).
Regarding neuroticism, theoretical accounts and empirical findings suggest that individuals with high trait levels tend to feel anxious and easily stressed (e.g., Barlow et al.,
2014). They process information in a more negative way (Finn et al.,
2013) and show an increased sensitivity to negative social signals (Denissen & Penke,
2008b). Accordingly, people with higher neuroticism likely interpret their social relationships more negatively and perceive them as more conflictual. In line with these implications for cognitive processing, empirical evidence illustrates a strong link between a person’s level of neuroticism and their self-perceived conflict frequency (e.g., Mund & Neyer,
2014). In addition, poorer problem-solving skills and less control of behavioral impulses (e.g., Shiner,
2019) might also provoke more conflict from the partner’s perspective. Indeed, several studies focusing on adult samples have demonstrated that high neuroticism levels are linked to higher rates of other-perceived conflict (e.g., Berry et al.,
2000).
Finally, the interplay of both traits might predict perceptions of conflict frequency across relationships beyond the main effects of agreeableness and neuroticism: Both theoretical (Hofstee et al.,
1992) and empirical (Ode et al.,
2008) notions suggest that the implications of a person’s agreeableness for interpersonal behavior can differ depending on their level of neuroticism and vice versa. Building on this, there are two alternative hypotheses about the interplay of agreeableness and neuroticism in relation to conflict frequency. First, the combination of high levels of agreeableness and neuroticism could lead to a
mutual attenuation effect: The self-regulatory abilities associated with agreeableness (Robinson,
2007) may help to control the impulsive behaviors and strong emotional reactions associated with neuroticism, while the negative perceptions associated with neuroticism (e.g., Finn et al.,
2013) may interfere with self-regulatory behaviors associated with agreeableness (Ode et al.,
2008). Second, the interplay of high levels of agreeableness and neuroticism could lead to a
sensitization effect: Individuals high on both agreeableness and neuroticism may be more sensitive to social cues (see Hofstee et al.,
1992) and particularly alert to potential conflicts in their social relationships (Denissen & Penke,
2008a), while also possessing the skills to navigate complex social situations (Robinson,
2007). This way, they might be more successful at preventing conflict in the first place and thus perceive even lower levels of conflict frequency.
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Taken together, agreeableness has been associated with self- and other-perceptions of lower conflict frequency to some extent, whereas neuroticism has been robustly associated with self- and other-perceptions of higher conflict frequency. Moreover, both personality traits might interact and either attenuate each other’s effects or lead to a sensitization for social dynamics that helps to prevent conflict. So far, most findings on personality and conflict frequency are based on research with adult samples. In adolescence, however, existing literature on personality development highlights temporary decreases in agreeableness and increases in neuroticism compared to childhood and later adulthood. This phenomenon is often referred to as the
disruption hypothesis (e.g., van den Akker et al.,
2014). Age-specific changes in personality may introduce age-sensitive social dynamics (e.g., less agreeable behavior) that could contribute to higher conflict frequency in adolescence (see Smetana et al.,
2006). Therefore, examining the role of personality in conflict frequency during the developmental phase of adolescence is particularly important.
Relationship-Specific Features and Conflict Frequency: Differences in Adolescent Parent and Peer Relationships
Conflict is an essential form of communication, serving as a signal for the importance of certain topics and as a catalyst for personal development and relationship transformation in adolescence (Adams & Laursen,
2007). One relationship marked by increased conflict frequency is that between adolescents and their parents (Branje,
2018). In adolescence, individuals seek to become autonomous and move towards more equal relationships with their parents, while still depending on them emotionally and financially. Whereas high conflict frequency in parent relationships has been related to lower relationship quality and maladjustment (Laursen & Collins,
1994), research consents that conflict with parents contributes to a functional transformation of family relationships (e.g., Adams & Laursen,
2001). Moreover, research illustrates that conflicts with parents predominantly focus on responsibilities, autonomy, or school, and adolescents engage in conflict behaviors aimed at asserting their interests rather than maintaining an amicable relationship (Laursen,
1995). Thus, although parents remain central attachment figures for adolescents (Smetana et al.,
2006), the relationship is characterized by ambivalence (see Fingerman et al.,
2008).
A second important type of relationship in adolescence is with peers, which includes relationships with close friends, romantic partners, clique members, or other acquaintances with people of the same age outside the family (Collins & Steinberg,
2006). Despite differences in their specific function and degree of closeness, relationships with peers have in common that they are voluntary, which stands in contrast to relationships with parents (Laursen & Pursell,
2009). Peer relationships are driven by the desire to expand one’s social network and to build meaningful connections outside the family (De Goede et al.,
2009). Thus, although parent and peer relationships share functions, such as providing adolescents with company and emotional as well as practical support, their meaning for adolescents’ psychosocial development also differs in important aspects and shifts with time (Laursen & Bukowski,
1997). Over the course of adolescence, closeness with peers increases and often exceeds the closeness in family relationships (Adams & Laursen,
2007). Along with this relational development, conflicts in peer relationships mainly pertain to interpersonal aspects, and adolescents typically select conflict strategies that minimize the likelihood of relationship dissolution or other disruptive effects of dispute (Laursen,
1995). This way, peer relationships offer opportunities to try out new strategies to improve social skills, including conflict management (Scholte & Van Aken,
2006).
Together, parents and peers represent significant relationship partners in adolescence, each taking on different functions in adolescent psychosocial development. Correspondingly, conflict in parent and peer relationships typically differs with respect to discussed topics and with respect to the approaches which adolescents take to deal with them. To understand the factors contributing to individual differences in the perceived frequency of conflicts, it is important to distinguish between conflicts across relationship types. Moreover, the cultural macrosystem in which adolescents’ conflicts with parents and peers occur needs to be considered (Bronfenbrenner & Morris,
1998). Besides culture-specific social norms regarding the behavior of adolescents and their relationship partners (e.g., Bornstein & Cheah,
2005), this also includes the historical context. One event that had a great impact on adolescents’ social lives was the COVID-19 pandemic. As part of the measures to contain the virus, interactions with peers were severely restricted, while time spent at home with family increased, challenging adolescents’ needs for autonomy and relationships outside the family context (Campione-Barr et al.,
2021). A study from the US found that adolescents’ perceptions of conflict with family and peers decreased over the course of the pandemic on average, although there were considerable individual differences (Rogers et al.,
2021). In sum, acknowledging the cultural and historical background is important for the investigation of the interplay of personality, relationship variables, and conflict.
Adding to the differences between adolescents’ relationships with parent and peers, conflicts also differ within specific relationship types depending on the unique features of each relationship. Specifically, the probability of conflict increases as relationships get closer, as there is more need to negotiate each other’s rights, responsibilities, and mutual assessments (Canary et al.,
1995). On the other hand, previous research highlights that conflict occurs more frequently in relationships that are marked by lower quality and higher negativity (Adams & Laursen,
2007). Therefore, the frequency of contact between relationship partners and the perceived quality of a relationship both need to be considered when examining conflict frequency in adolescent parents and peer relationships. Furthermore, empirical research with samples of young adults indicates that self-perceptions and partner perceptions of closeness and conflict differ substantially (Berry et al.,
2000). Moreover, studies show that adolescents’ perceptions of the family environment (Human et al.,
2016), conflict intensity (Mastrotheodoros et al.,
2020), or parental warmth (Janssen et al.,
2021) can differ markedly from their parents’ perceptions. Similar discrepancies have been found in adolescent peer relationships focusing on adolescents’ and peers’ perceptions of relationship quality (Spilt et al.,
2015) or bullying experiences (Hwang et al.,
2017). Accordingly, both adolescents’ self-perceptions as well as parent and peer perceptions of conflict frequency were considered in the current study.