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02-11-2023 | Original Paper

Maternal Beliefs about the Costs and Benefits of Solitude in Childhood and Adolescence

Auteurs: Robert J. Coplan, Jenna P. Weingarten, Julie C. Bowker, Laura L. Ooi, Kristen Archbell

Gepubliceerd in: Journal of Child and Family Studies | Uitgave 5/2024

Abstract

Experiences of solitude are ubiquitous in childhood and adolescence, but there remains considerable debate as to the potential positive versus negative implications of spending time alone across these developmental periods. The goal of this study was to examine maternal beliefs about the costs and benefits of solitude in childhood and adolescence. Participants were 500 mothers aged 23–67 years (M = 41.54, SD = 7.12) of children (n = 246 girls, n = 254 boys) aged of 4–18 years (M = 10.10, SD = 4.58). Mothers rated how ‘beneficial’ and ‘problematic’ it was, overall, for their child/adolescent to spend time alone, and then described up to three specific costs and benefits of solitude at this age. Open-ended responses were categorized into codes reflecting a wide range of costs and benefits. Among the results, mothers most often described potential costs of solitude related to the mental health concerns and problems with peers, and potential benefits of solitude pertaining to promoting autonomy and restoration. Several significant differences in maternal beliefs were also found between mothers of younger children, older children, and adolescents, as well as a function of child gender and experiences of the COVID-19 pandemic. Results are discussed in terms of the complex links between solitude and well-being in childhood and adolescence.

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Titel: Maternal Beliefs about the Costs and Benefits of Solitude in Childhood and Adolescence
Auteurs: Robert J. Coplan
Jenna P. Weingarten
Julie C. Bowker
Laura L. Ooi
Kristen Archbell
Publicatiedatum: 02-11-2023
Uitgeverij: Springer US
Gepubliceerd in: Journal of Child and Family Studies / Uitgave 5/2024
Print ISSN: 1062-1024
Elektronisch ISSN: 1573-2843
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/s10826-023-02713-x

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