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The Effects of Perceived Dysfunctional Family-of-Origin Rules on the Dating Relationships of Young Adults

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This study examined the effects of perceived dysfunctional family-of-origin rules on the dating relationships of young adult offspring. A sample of 322 students from three universities completed self-report questionnaires measuring dysfunctional family-of-origin rules, current dating behaviors, dating anxiety, relationship satisfaction and commitment. The results indicated that dysfunctional family-of-origin rules were positively related to dating anxiety, and negatively related to advancement in dating stages, relationship satisfaction, and commitment in the dating relationships of young adults. There also was a tendency for young adults from families with dysfunctional rules to date later and less frequently than young adults from families with more functional rules, although they dated about the same number of partners. Implications for future research and clinical interventions are discussed.

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    Michelle Taggart-Reedy

  3. Department of Family Studies, University of Kentucky, Lexington, KY, 40506

    Stephan M. Wilson

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Larson, J.H., Taggart-Reedy, M. & Wilson, S.M. The Effects of Perceived Dysfunctional Family-of-Origin Rules on the Dating Relationships of Young Adults. Contemporary Family Therapy 23, 489–512 (2001). https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1013009213860

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