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On the basis of Social Role Theory and a social functional view of emotions, we argue that gender differences in anger experiences and expression are related to men’s and women’s relationship context. We hypothesized that women in traditional relationship contexts would express their anger less directly, and would suppress their anger more, due to expected negative social appraisals. We compared anger reactions to a conflict situation in a traditional and egalitarian relationship context. Eighty-two Dutch adult participants (43 women and 39 men) were recruited partly by students in a psychology class, and partly by a snowball method. They were invited to participate only if they had a steady relationship of minimally one year. The results show that women report more intense subjective anger in both contexts, but that the expression of anger differed with relationship context. In traditional relationships women tend to suppress their anger more than men, while men report to express their anger directly more than women. This difference in anger expression was mediated by negative social appraisals. In egalitarian relationships, this difference was not found.
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Original Dutch version and English translation of the questionnaire
Characteristics of the Conflict
Which of the following causes applied to the conflict? | Wat was de belangrijkste aanleiding voor het conflict? |
My partner did not meet an agreement | Mijn partner kwam een afspraak niet na |
My partner insulted me | Mijn partner beledigde mij |
My partner showed inappropriate behavior | Mijn partner gedroeg zich ongepast |
My partner showed no respect | Mijn partner toonde geen respect |
My partner ignored me | Mijn partner negeerde mij |
How long ago this conflict had taken place | Hoe lang geleden vond dit conflict plaats? |
How many of such conflicts they had had | Hoe vaak heeft u een dergelijk conflict gehad met uw partner? |
Who initiated the conflict | Wie begon het conflict? |
Who contributed most to solving the conflict? | Wie heeft het meest bijgedragen aan een oplossing van het conflict? |
Subjective Anger
How intense was your anger | Hoe boos was u? |
Anger Expression
I criticized my partner | Ik gaf kritiek op mijn partner |
I said I was angry | Ik zei dat ik boos was |
I scolded my partner | Ik schold mijn partner uit |
I verbally attacked my partner | Ik haalde verbaal scherp uit |
Indirect anger: | |
I shared y anger with others (gossiping), | Ik deelde mijn boosheid met anderen |
I did not know what to do | Ik wist niet wat ik moest doen |
I burst into tears | Ik barstte in tranen uit |
Anger suppression | |
I redirected my anger towards someone else | Ik uitte mijn boosheid tegen anderen |
I suppressed my anger | Ik onderdrukte mijn boosheid |
I did not show anything | Ik liet niets van mijn boosheid ien |
Coercion Goal
I wanted my partner to take me serious | Ik wilde dat mijn partner me serieus nam |
I experienced control over my partner | Ik had controle over mijn partner |
I felt strong with respect to my partner | Ik voelde me sterk tegenover mijn partner |
I wanted my partner to change his or her behavior | Ik wilde dat mijn partner zijn/haar gedrag veranderde |
I wanted to influence my partner | Ik wilde mijn partner beinvloeden |
Negative Social Appraisals
I was afraid that the situation got worse | Ik was bang dat de situatie zou verslechteren |
I was afraid of revenge | Ik was bang voor wraak |
I expected negative effects for our relationship | Ik verwachtte negatieve effecten voor onze relatie |
I could not stand against my partner | Ik kon niet tegen mijn partner op |
I worried that my partner would like me less | Ik was bezorgd dat mijn partner me minder zou mogen |
Relational Power
I am the one who takes the decisions | In onze relatie ben ik meestal degene die de beslissingen neemt |
I am the most dominant in the relationship | Ik ben het meest dominant in onze relatie |
We mostly do what my partner wants (rev.) | We doen meestal wat mijn partner vindt |
I decide what to do with respect to finances | Op financieel gebied neem ik over het algeneen de beslissingen |
I decide what to do with respect to the activities we undertake | Wat betreft onze activiteiten in vrije tijd, neem ik in het algemeen de beslissingen |
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Fischer, A.H., Evers, C. The Social Costs and Benefits of Anger as a Function of Gender and Relationship Context. Sex Roles 65, 23–34 (2011). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11199-011-9956-x
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