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Intimacy, identity and status: Measuring dating goals in late adolescence and emerging adulthood

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Individuals’ goals can direct their own social behavior and development. We extended and validated a social dating goals measure (SDGS-R) to assess identity, intimacy and status goals, and compared goals by age, gender, sexual orientation and romantic status. Participants were 121 adolescents and 249 emerging adults (age M = 20.6). The expected 3-factor structure of the SDGS-R was found and confirmed (18 items). Identity, intimacy and status goals had small correlations with each other and analyses validated the meaning and uniqueness of each goal. Participants reported more identity and intimacy goals than status goals. Intimacy goals were more prominent among older compared to teenage participants and those with a partner rather than without one. Females reported more identity dating goals than males. There was no difference in the goals of same-sex and other-sex attracted youth. The availability of the SDGS-R will allow further study of romantic development and relationship functioning.

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  1. School of Psychology and Griffith Health Institute, Griffith University, Gold Coast, QLD, 4222, Australia

    Melanie J. Zimmer-Gembeck, Nicole Hughes & Marguerite Kelly

  2. Department of Psychology, York University, Toronto, ON, Canada

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Zimmer-Gembeck, M.J., Hughes, N., Kelly, M. et al. Intimacy, identity and status: Measuring dating goals in late adolescence and emerging adulthood. Motiv Emot 36, 311–322 (2012). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11031-011-9253-6

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