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For mothers, intimate partner violence (IPV) presents a concern not only for their own well-being but also for that of their children who are exposed to the violence and its aftermath. In focus groups with adult women (N = 39) across three jurisdictions who had experienced legal system intervention for IPV victimization, mothers raised unsolicited concerns about the negative effects of IPV exposure on their children. These comments were not prompted by the facilitator but were raised by women in all seven of the focus groups during discussions about motivations and barriers to participation in prosecution of their abusive partners. The overall message was that victims with children felt very conflicted. Children both facilitate and inhibit leaving the abusive relationship. Mothers wanted to spare their children from harmful effects of violence but also wanted to keep their families together and protect their children from potential agitation and instability caused by legal system involvement. Participants described how fears and threats of involvement from child protective services inhibited help-seeking while simultaneously voicing a desire for services that would help their children. More research is needed to help service providers understand the quagmire mothers who are victims of IPV encounter regarding their children’s wellbeing.
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The authors wish to thank Patricia Smith, Director, Violence Against Women Prevention Program, Michigan Department of Community Health; Kalamazoo County Prosecutor’s Office, all members of the Community Advisory Board, the many research assistants who provided insight to this project, the participants who were willing to share their stories, and Christina Smith, Heidi Richards and Corey Nichols who assisted with coding.
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Research Supported by: NIJ 2006-WG-BX-0007; NIMH K23 MH64572 (Rhodes); NIMH K01MH75965-01 (Cerulli). The contents of this article do not necessarily represent the views of the Department of Veterans Affairs or the United States Government
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Rhodes, K.V., Cerulli, C., Dichter, M.E. et al. “I Didn’t Want To Put Them Through That”: The Influence Of Children on Victim Decision-making in Intimate Partner Violence Cases. J Fam Viol 25, 485–493 (2010). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10896-010-9310-z
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