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On the Mutuality of Human Motivation and Relationships

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Human Motivation and Interpersonal Relationships

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Motivational processes are responsible for initiating and directing human activity; they energize behavior, generate and increase task engagement, and direct actions toward certain ends or goals. They are also inextricably linked with relational experiences. People bring their goals, values, hopes, and past regulatory experiences to bear on various types of relationships and interactions. The nature of these motivational forces that bring people into contact with each other, and that keep them interacting, plays a critical role in relationships. The chapters collected in this book describe the links between human motivation and the influential interactions and relationships that shape individuals’ daily lives and long-term experiences.

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Weinstein, N., DeHaan, C.R. (2014). On the Mutuality of Human Motivation and Relationships. In: Weinstein, N. (eds) Human Motivation and Interpersonal Relationships. Springer, Dordrecht. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-94-017-8542-6_1

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