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Parenting stress can bring out the worst in us. Those moments when we “lose it” with our children, and erupt in anger and frustration, are the moments we regret most as parents, as we know they leave traces, just as the traces we struggle with from our own youth, our interactions with our parents. In My struggle, Karl Ove Knausgard describes such moments of a father with his young daughters, wondering why it is that he gets so out of control.
She [Vanja, 4 years] is already practiced in the ways of the world and can be so cheeky that I completely lose my head and sometimes shout at her or shake her until she starts crying. But usually she just laughs. The last time it happened, the last time I was so furious I shook her and she just laughed, I had a sudden inspiration and placed my hand on her chest. Her heart was pounding. Oh, my, how it was pounding.
Knausgard (2012), pp. 30–31
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Bögels, S., Restifo, K. (2014). Session 4: Responding Versus Reacting to Parenting Stress. In: Mindful Parenting. Mindfulness in Behavioral Health. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4614-7406-7_8
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