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Do you recall how you felt the first time you laid eyes on your newborn baby? Or how you feel gazing at your child as he lies sleeping? This is the mind of loving-kindness: wide open, boundless love and kindness. As parents, we are already intimately familiar with the mind of loving-kindness. With mindfulness, we learn to practice this mind.
Even poor or suffering people raise their children with deep love. Their hearts cannot be understood by others. This can be known only when you become a father or a mother. They do not care whether they themselves are poor or rich; their only concern is that their children will grow up. They pay no attention to whether they themselves are cold or hot, but cover their children to protect them from the cold or shield them from the hot sun. This is extreme kindness. Only those who have aroused this mind can know it, and only those who practice this mind can understand it.
Dogen Zenji (edited by Tanahashi, 1995)
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Bögels, S., Restifo, K. (2014). Session 7: Love and Limits: Cultivating Compassion and Setting Limits. In: Mindful Parenting. Mindfulness in Behavioral Health. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4614-7406-7_11
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