Abstract
Rational-emotive therapy (RET) is largely a theory and practice of interpersonal relationships and most probably would never have been created and developed had I not been absorbed, from childhood onward, with my own love and relating problems (Ellis, 1965, 1972a, 1983a). Because of my personal interest in love, I was motivated to do a considerable amount of pioneering research on the emotion of love (Ellis, 1949a, 1949b, 1949c, 1950, 1951, 1954). I also focused RET clinical work, from 1955 onward, on helping people with their love, marital, and sex problems (Ellis, 1957, 1958, 1960, 1962, 1963a, 1963b, 1963c, 1972b, 1973a; Ellis & Harper, 1961a, 1961b). Some of the early RET clinicians also devoted themselves to problems of love and interpersonal relations and made significant contributions to these areas (Ard, 1967; Ard & Ard, 1969; Blazier, 1975; Demorest, 1971; Grossack, 1976; Harper, 1960, 1963; Harper & Stokes, 1971; Hauck, 1973, 1974, 1977, 1981; Hibbard, 1975; Maultsby, 1975; McClellan & Stieper, 1973; Shibles, 1978).
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Ellis, A. (1985). Love and Its Problems. In: Ellis, A., Bernard, M.E. (eds) Clinical Applications of Rational-Emotive Therapy. Springer, Boston, MA. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4613-2485-0_2
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