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The Ultimate Betrayal? Infidelity and Solidarity in Close Relationships

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Solidarity and Prosocial Behavior

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    Bram P. Buunk

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    Detlef Fetchenhauer , Andreas Flache , Bram Buunk  & Siegwart Lindenberg , ,  & 

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Buunk, B.P., Dijkstra, P. (2006). The Ultimate Betrayal? Infidelity and Solidarity in Close Relationships. In: Fetchenhauer, D., Flache, A., Buunk, B., Lindenberg, S. (eds) Solidarity and Prosocial Behavior. Critical Issues in Social Justice. Springer, Boston, MA . https://doi.org/10.1007/0-387-28032-4_7

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